What would I do if I found out my engagement ring was a CZ? Nothing. IT’S THE THOUGHT THAT COUNTS.
Doesn’t matter if it’s real or fake… Flaunt that bling! Be proud of your fiancé/husband.
A real ring? Is it on your finger? Then it is real. This is the problem with so many milsos- you can’t just be happy that he wants to marry you!
I’d rather have nothing than a lie on my
finger. Sets the tone of your marriage before it starts. Lies are lies! Propose with a ring pop it’s not about the ring but about what it represents! If it’s fake who cares but to be lied to about it then that’s what it is. Pretty simple. Fake
But if he never said “LOOK AT THIS DIAMOND RING” than is it a lie? She could have assumed it was real and he could have been too ashamed to tell her otherwise
To add: it is called an engagement RING not an engagement DIAMOND. Just because she expected a diamond does not mean he lied. Not all engagement rings are diamond
Lies are lies and when she asked about getting it appraised the he should’ve told her without finding it out on her own. I’d appreciate the truth and wouldn’t care if it’s fake as long as I knew. Then to look stupid when getting it appraised and being told by a jeweler!
To add-marriage is not a ring it’s what it represents and that’s the problem with this all of these comments! So quick to be engaged but that doesn’t mean married! Marriage is work and must have honesty! It’s not about the size or even if it’s a diamond it’s about your future! If it starts with a lie then that sets the tone. End of story.
SHE assumed it was a diamond. What’s he supposed to do? Give her the details before letting her put it on? He’s not obligated to tell her “hey diz ring aint real diamond” because engagement rings do not HAVE to be diamonds. It was materialistic of her to assume that is what she was given and what she was entitled to get. Instead of being happy that “he proposed! he loves me!” she’s more pissed that he didn’t give her details that she didn’t NEED.
There is no cardinal rule that says she needed to receive a diamond, or that he needed to disclose that she wasn’t getting a diamond. That’s not a lie. That’s placing value on the object over the meaning, and blaming HIM for HER assumptions.
It isn’t generally normal for people to be like “Will you marry me? This is a 1.2c VVS1 diamond with serial number 1245873 that you can verify online for authenticity.” No. Because an engagement ring can be anything.
You say “marriage is not a ring”, yet you seem to think he was dishonest by not disclosing it wasn’t a ‘real ring’. When, the idea is it is a RING. He proposed with it, she said yes, making it an ENGAGEMENT ring.
"its not about the size or even if its a diamond!" but if its not a diamond he better tell you?
We don’t ask for people to specify that the ring is a real diamond, so why should we expect them to disclose that its NOT if we claim to be more focused on the meaning of the ring and not the materialism of it?
Dude I can see being pretty hurt because it’s like, if you couldn’t afford a real diamond, you could’ve chosen something else, like birthstones or pearls, or gone with something small instead. Idk, I work around a lot of CZs and they really do look pretty cheap and it would, to me, symbolize taking shortcuts and, given that he didn’t tell her straight up that it wasn’t a diamond when it came up, lying by omission. I mean, you can cheat on someone and not say anything, and it’s still being dishonest.
HOWEVER. I wouldn’t be mad. There’s no sense in that. And the fact that he wanted to marry me so badly he broke down and bought a fake diamond, and then tried to hide it because it was probably embarrassing, would help redeem him.
I think ultimately it comes down to this girl realizing that he didn’t do it to hurt her or make her life difficult and forgiving him. Trust can be rebuilt, with time, especially over something where it wasn’t an ill-intended lie. The man’s heart was in the right place so, while I can still see being hurt, he deserves a fair second chance and some forgiveness. If he wants to spend eternity with you, he has all the time in the world to make you happy, and this will merely be a blip on the radar.